Posted by Paul on March 25, 1999 at 18:41:31:
In Reply to: Help! Need encouragement/advice...... posted by anonymous on March 25, 1999 at 07:00:19:
You're concern is reassuring.
If not for my wife, who I am surprised still hangs with me, I can guarentee
I would not be here writing this now.
And as much as she wants to help, I too have to shut her out occasionally.
To us, anyone not experienced in the PAIN is shut out anyways.
Be strong, be THERE when asked, be silent but present.
Go away when you can tell (and I know you can tell)she needs space....but please never stray far.
How many days and nights I watch my wife crying hysterically for her inability to do ANYTHING to help.
I tell her, just knowing you are near, and will be here when the pain ceases, carries me.
Get her here, and use this site as it has been the best thing to happen tome since my marriage to my wonderful, patient, strong wife.
Good luck, and many pain free days to your fiance'
P