Posted by Bob P on March 25, 1999 at 10:17:49:
In Reply to: Help! Need encouragement/advice...... posted by anonymous on March 25, 1999 at 07:00:19:
Not much you can do but honor her wishes. We CHers get pretty resentful of people that don't get to experience this pain. I think we actually get possesive of our suffering. Our biggest frustration is not being able to "cure" them and the feeling that others don't have any understanding of what we go through. Because they don't understand they tend to trivialize the headaches and that drives us nuts.
The fact that you're visiting this web site shows that you care very much for her. Just understand that there isn't much you can do but there if she wants you. Trouble is when we're hurting, getting through it becomes the focus of our lives and not much else matters.
I've been married to a wonderful lady for 24 years. I've had CH for the past 30 years. She's learned to just leave me alone and fight my way through the best I can.
If she hasn't visited this site, try to get her to. Other CHers are they only people that truely understand and she'll find a measure of relief just from talking with other headbangers.
You're doing the right thing. Keep up the good work and don't get discouraged. It's a terrible affliction that realy destroys life.
Good luck.
Bob Pahlow