Posted by Anne Thomas (208.250.112.252) on July 19, 1999 at 17:58:55:
I am fairly new to this message board and was so very happy to find it, such a wealth of priceless information and above all support. I have had my Ch for about 5 yrs now, have battled the depression that comes along with this affliction, the strain on relationships, the inteference with job and job preformance, the condesending attitudes of doctors, and some basic limitations on the fun things in life. I have concerns for some recent postings on the board, persons hurting eachother, condesending attitudes, and have also felt somewhat restricted in my postings for fear of insulting someone. Please never suggest to my that because I respond to Indocin I probaly don't have Ch, you remind me of a neurosurgeon who suggested it was all in my mind. Ok, back on tract. These HA are often refered to as suicide HA, my assumption that persons have choosen to kill themselves rather than live like this, correct? These HA create anger, self hatred, hopelessness, dispare and often ruin. If someone is angry, let them be, if they want to use the F word let them, if they post a joke that uses the F word let them. Stop kicking people when they are already so down, stop making them feel worse than they already do, if they are pissed, let them be. We all really only know eachother through the keyboard, and for some persons this is all the support they have. My heart goes out to persons living alone, jobless due to the HA, and those with little support systems. If it were'nt for my husband I would have committed suicide long ago. I often think god borbid someone stops posting only for all of us to later learn that that person took their own life, perhaps that person was one of recent ridicule by many of us. I do not want to participate in this board with a feeling that perhaps I typed something that finally put someone completly over the edge. I am making a pledge to myself that I will not participate in hurtful banter, I will not attempt to hurt someone. If I see anger,profanity, I will remember that that person is is pain as I often am, that they have every right to lash out. Perhaps many lash out at and on the board because they don't have someone in their life yet who they can lash out at who understands and will love them unconditionally. I make a prommise never to discount what anyone posts, have'nt we already all been discounted enough by others. Let the humorus posts continue.."Laughter is the food of the soul". So if anyone ever wants to "yell" at me its ok, I understand your anger, I will never lash back at you. Suicide is a personal decision, I never, ever want to feel regret for anything I will ever post to anyone. I have to admit that when I am feeling achy,or irritable I try to avoid the board because often what I see on the board does'nt make me feel anybetter. It would be nice to see this change. You are a great bunch of people with so much to offer eachother. Hoping your attacks are far and few between